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Friends and Data Sharing

The friends system lets you connect with other Fapstats users, share activity data, and view each other's properties. When two users link their accounts through the friend-partner connection, shared activities count for both — including XP, statistics, calendar entries, and achievements.

How Friendships Work​

Fapstats uses a bidirectional friendship model:

  1. User A sends a friend request to User B
  2. User B accepts the request
  3. Both users now have a mutual friendship

Both sides must be connected for the friendship to be active. If either user removes the friendship, it is deleted for both.

Adding a Friend​

To add a friend, you need their Friend Code — a unique identifier assigned to every Fapstats account.

Finding Your Friend Code​

  1. Go to Settings
  2. Tap Friend Code
  3. Your friend code is displayed and can be copied

Sending a Friend Request​

  1. Open the Friends page from the sidebar menu
  2. Tap the Add Friend button
  3. Enter the friend code
  4. Tap Send Request
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Friend codes are UUIDs (long unique strings). Copy the full code exactly to avoid errors.

Friend Request Privacy​

Each user controls who can send them friend requests:

SettingWho can send requests
EveryoneAny Fapstats user
Friends of FriendsOnly users who share a mutual friend
NobodyNo one can send friend requests

There is a limit of 100 pending requests per user (sent and received combined).

Managing Friend Requests​

The Friends page has three tabs:

Friends Tab​

All active (mutual) friends with:

  • Display name and gender icon
  • Online status
  • Option to mark as favorite (favorites appear at the top)

Pending Tab​

  • Received requests — Accept or Reject
  • Sent requests — Cancel

Blocked Tab​

Users you have blocked. You can unblock them from here.

Friend Details​

Tap a friend to open the Friend Detail page:

  • Profile information (name, gender, about me, online status)
  • Their partner entry in your account (if linked)
  • Keyholding information (if chastity is connected)
  • Link to their Friend Calendar (shared activities)

Friend Permissions​

When a friendship is established, a permissions entry is automatically created. You and your friend each have independent permission settings:

PermissionDefaultDescription
View Sex ActivitiesOffFriend can see your sex activities
View Masturbation ActivitiesOffFriend can see your masturbation activities
View ChastityOffFriend can see your chastity status
View PartnersOffFriend can see your partners list
View ToysOffFriend can see your toys list
View TagsOffFriend can see your tags list
View LocationsOffFriend can see your locations list
View PositionsOffFriend can see your positions list
View Last LaunchedOnFriend can see when you last opened the app
View Mutual FriendsOnFriend can see friends you have in common
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Permissions are one-directional. You control what your friend sees of your data, and they control what you see of theirs. These are independent settings.

Blocking a User​

Blocking a user:

  • Automatically deletes any existing friendship (both directions)
  • Prevents them from sending you friend requests
  • Removes you from each other's ranked groups and leaderboard
  • Adds them to your Blocked tab

To block: Open the friend's detail page and tap Block. To unblock: Go to the Blocked tab and tap Unblock.

Linking Friends to Partners (Data Sharing)​

To share activity data between accounts, you must link a friend to one of your partners. This is the key step that enables bidirectional data sharing.

The Connection Model​

Consider two users, Sophia and Janik, who are a couple:

  1. Sophia has a partner entry called "Janik" in her account
  2. Janik has a partner entry called "Sophia" in his account
  3. They add each other as friends using their friend codes
  4. Sophia links her friend "Janik" to her partner entry "Janik"
  5. Janik links his friend "Sophia" to his partner entry "Sophia"

Now the system knows that Sophia's partner "Janik" represents Janik's actual user account, and vice versa.

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Both users must link each other for full bidirectional data sharing. If only one side links, the sharing is limited.

Step-by-Step Setup​

For User A (e.g., Sophia):

  1. Create a partner entry for your partner (e.g., "Janik")
  2. Get your Friend Code from Settings
  3. Share your friend code with your partner
  4. Add your partner as a friend using their friend code
  5. Wait for them to accept (or accept theirs)
  6. Go to the Friend Detail page
  7. Link the friend to your existing partner entry

For User B (e.g., Janik):

Repeat the same steps — create partner "Sophia," add Sophia as friend, link the friend to the partner entry.

Once both sides are linked:

  • Any sex activity either user creates that includes the other as a partner is shared
  • Both users earn XP
  • Both users see the activity in their calendar and statistics
  • Achievements progress for both

What Happens When Activities Are Shared​

Activities Appear in Both Calendars​

When Sophia creates a sex activity and selects "Janik" as a partner:

  • The activity appears in Sophia's calendar (as her own activity)
  • The activity also appears in Janik's calendar (as a participated activity)

Both Users Earn XP​

  • Sophia earns 500 XP for creating the sex activity
  • Janik also earns 500 XP because he participated through the partner link

Statistics Count for Both​

The activity counts toward both users' statistics: activity counts, duration totals, orgasm counts, partner-specific stats, time-of-day distributions, and more.

Achievements Progress for Both​

Achievement progress (Sex, Threesome, etc.) counts participated activities. Both users advance from shared activities.

Records Are Shared​

Personal records (most activities in a day, longest streak, etc.) include participated activities in the calculation.

Participated Activities​

An activity counts as a participated activity for another user when all conditions are met:

  1. The activity was created by a different user
  2. The activity has a partner entry that is linked to your account via the friend-partner connection
  3. You and the activity creator have a mutual friendship

If any condition is not met, the activity is not shared.

What Is Not Shared​

  • Masturbation activities are never shared (solo by definition)
  • Partners, toys, tags, locations, and positions are personal to each account — only the activity itself is shared
  • Shared items visible in property lists are read-only views based on friend permissions

Shared Properties​

When a friend has the appropriate permissions enabled, you can see their properties in dedicated Shared sections:

SectionWhat you see
PartnersShared Partners section (read-only)
ToysShared Toys section (read-only)
TagsShared Tags section (read-only)
LocationsShared Locations section (read-only)
PositionsShared Positions section (read-only)

These depend on the permissions your friend has granted you.

Friend Calendar​

You can view a friend's calendar from the Friend Detail page. It shows their activities based on the permissions they have granted you (View Sex Activities and/or View Masturbation Activities).

Removing a Friend​

  1. Open the friend's detail page
  2. Tap Remove
  3. Confirm the removal
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Removing a friend deletes the friendship for both sides. Data sharing through the partner link stops immediately.